If you don’t know, a baby Sprinkle is held when someone is pregnant with her second, third, or fourth child. Since the Sprinkle is a fairly new addition to the party world, there isn’t much guidance explaining the etiquette of this occasion. So today I’m sharing a few pointers and ideas as well as a lovely Sprinkle my friend recently held for an expecting mother.
A Sprinkle is typically a lower key affair than a shower (hence the name “sprinkle”!) and usually just the mother’s closest friends and family are invited. Generally, it is a celebration of the mom and arrival of her newest bundle of joy, and not a “stock the nursery” kind of gathering. In other words, registering for sprinkles is a big no-no.
The biggest question I receive about Sprinkles is : Should guests bring presents? Generally, the answer is no.
Now some pregnant moms will retort, “But my friends really want to bring me a gift.” That may be true, and they might bring one, but the event itself shouldn’t be regarded as another shower. Most likely this same group of people already helped stock your nursery with gifts at your baby shower. Asking them to bring a whole slew of gifts, especially if it hasn’t been that long since your previous baby, seems a bit much to ask of them. It doesn’t matter if you had a boy the first time and now you are having a girl. It is not the responsibility of your friends to provide you with everything you need for your children.
Let’s also not forget that your friends in this same stage of life are probably attending multiple wedding and baby showers a month and, frankly, the costs add up. (No one would ever say that aloud, but I guarantee most people feel that way!). Most people will probably be relieved that this sprinkle is just a fun get together and not something in which they have to bring one more gift.
A few possible exceptions:
- It has been 5+ years since the birth of her last baby (and her baby stuff is outdates or been given away!)
- She has multiple children of the same sex and now is having the opposite. For example, the mom honored in this Sprinkle has three girls and is now pregnant with a boy.
- The Sprinkle is just among family members.
- Guests are asked to bring a very small themed gift as listed below.
I would suggest specifying “no gifts, please” on the invitation. The friends who want to bring a gift can do so on their own time.
Here are some more low key ideas for a sprinkle:
- A Sprinkle at a favorite restaurant. Remember, if you send paper invitations people will generally assume you are treating. Please note “dutch” if otherwise.
- A “Dutch” Sprinkle. The organizer is not the host. She will just send a Paperless Post or card invitation to the guests (or just email!) and specify the date/time/location. I have been to several of these where the organizer didn’t specify that people were to pay for themselves. Be sure to clarify that so there aren’t any surprises at the dinner! You could say it’s a “Dutch Sprinkle” or “Let’s Take Lisa to Dinner” Sprinkle. Tell the restaurant before you sit down that you want the guest of honor’s check split up among everyone else.
- Have a Book Sprinkle. My friends did this for me when I had my third child and I’m sure you won’t be surprised that I LOVED it. It gave the guests an opportunity to bring a little something, and it was meaningful. After two children, a lot of our favorites like Pat the Bunny and The Runaway Bunny were a little tattered, so this was a good chance to restock our baby bookshelf!
- Hair Bow Sprinkle. After having two boys, one of my friends became pregnant with her first girl. Since she insisted on no gifts, we (secretly) asked each guest to bring a hair bow. (I mean it’s like $5 for a baby bow so not a big deal.) I bought a cute bow holder to put them all on and she loved it. Simple is the key when it comes to a Sprinkle.
- Diaper Sprinkle. Because these are much needed and much appreciated!
On this note: if you are invited to a sprinkle that says “no gifts,” please don’t bring awkwardness to the party by bringing a gift; drop it off later!
Furthermore, if you want to host a Sprinkle, it doesn’t have to be on par with the effort you might put into a baby shower. My friend hosted a lovely event in her home with many of the things she already owned, with a few decor and DIY items to make it super cute. (See sources at the bottom of the post!).
And to make it easier on herself, she ordered the food from the fabulous The Hospitality Sweet here in Dallas and voila: A lovely Sprinkle amongst the mom’s closest friends.
Would love your thoughts on my Sprinkle etiquette recommendations!
Sources: Invitations (Swoozie’s- Dallas) / Pom Poms (White/Blue) / Placemats (Similar: Pottery Barn) / Straws / Similar: Chevron Ribbon / Wreath / Wooden “W” / Similar: Chalkboard Easel) / Chalkboard Pens (Must Have!) / White Plates (Similar: Crate and Barrel) / Petit Fours (Stein’s Bakery) / Chicken Salad and Orzo (The Hospitality Sweet)
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